My husband and I just celebrated our five year anniversary. He is from Honduras and I am American. He was deported just five months after we married and I moved to Honduras with him and than later we moved to Costa Rica.We have two young children and he is a wonderful dad. The problem is that he has not held a study job since he was deported. He has no schooling past six grade and no job skills other than construction. I love him but I feel very bitter that he is not motivated. I have tried to motivate him by sending him to school, computer classes, buying tools to make furniture, and encouraging him to work out. He watched the kids the three days a week that I work and cooks, the days I am off he watches tv, watches videos on youtube, plays soccer, and helps with the kids. I am very frusterated and feel as if I have done my part. I pay all the bills, attend online university, and keep myself in shape by running. It seems like the more confident I become the more naggy, bossy, and unconfident he is. I have told him to look for a job or come up with a solution if he is unhappy staying at home. My mom is no help because she does not want to council me in the wrong direction. I am open to any thoughts or suggestions.