I found out yesterday that I may have preeclampsia and I find out on Monday or Tuesday with all the testing they did if I do. I am 35 weeks along.

My problem is my husband. He leaves for a construction job at 5:30 am and gets home around 8 pm every night. I usually (about 4 out of 5 nights) have supper cooked and the house clean. I usually try to relax on the weekend because I watch our 21 month old daughter all day.

He never does anything around the house during the week, and I can understand with all the hours worked why. The ONLY thing I ask him to do is to clean up after himself and clear off the table to the kitchen after supper while I give our daughter a bath. He also puts her to bed every night because it’s the only thing he really gets to do with her on a daily basis. The thing is he DOES NOT do what I asked of him. He leaves his clothes EVERYWHERE, he leaves his dishes (including sharp knives) on the couch if he eats when our daughter is in bed, he piles the dishes ON the table with food still on all the plates and I’m quite tired of finding all the stuff I’ve organised all messed up. He doesn’t lay out his clothes the night before, he’d rather walk into the room about 5 times to find everything he needs and he makes his lunch at 5:30 when he’s sopposed to leave at 5:35 in the morning. Wouldn’t it make more sense to make it the night before? He claims he works hard.

On the weekends he goes into his ‘work area’ in the basement and fiddles with crap until HE’s done. Meanwhile I have to clean the cat litter out or it’d get done MAYBE once every 3 months. I also get to take the dog for walks because he’s to lazy to the the thing out. I don’t want the dog and it’s HIS dog! When he does clean, he throws everything into a box, or the sink and expects me to sort it all out. I find tools, nails and other odd assortment of junk that is easily accessable to our daughter.

3 times this week he has asked for help to make his lunch because he’s running late, meanwhile he’ll lay in bed for another 10 minutes after the alarm goes off! He gives himself 20 min to get his shit ready for work, shower and make a lunch.

Personally I’m getting VERY tired of cleaning up after him like another child. I tell him that I can’t do it being 35 weeks pregnant and that I can’t handle it. I get told that he works hard and so should I. I find taking care of our 21 month old easier than him! Also it takes me about an hour a day to clean all the crap that he doesn’t that he could do in a matter of minutes for himself. That hour a day could give me MORE time with our daughter.

When I do clean the house spotless and organized, he’s good for about a day then something slips. On the weekends he NEVER cleans anything, but will cook and leave me a pile of dishes to clean up. On top of that he doesn’t do diapers or spend time with our daughter. I’m starting to wonder if being a single parent would be easier!!!

Thanks for listening to me….. :S
LOL it’s spotless because I clean after she goes to bed sometimes. It’s only like that until about 3 hours after she’s up and then it’s all downhill from there