my friends and i made up a power of attorney, i sold all his business tools, his harley and the house for a lot less than they were worth,I have had numerous affairs and now he wants a divorce and not give me any alimony. what should I do? Regay Wolf Watson
He was never mean or abusive to me, he was away at work alot, he is an ironworker and it calls for him to be out of town to work most the times. I didn’t want to go with him, then i couldn’t party or have a good time, he sent me home over half his paychecks, it just wasn’t enough for me

make holes into the bathroom floor? I know he’s doing something with the plumbing, but c’mon LOL

My husband has always drank, but not to the extent that has been going on for almost a year now. He is rarely sober and drinks until he passes out. I found out, by him, that he has been lying to me about drinking for the last couple weeks. He said he had been drinking in-between work and school, and has been lying about the amount of alcohol consumed at other times. He expressed a sincere desire to change, even pouring out the remaining beer in the fridge. But that effort lasted 4 days. I’m pretty sure, from researching, that he’s entering the middle stages of alcoholism. He has already refused the notion of attending AA, and going to counseling is “not for him” either, even though it’s apparent he needs it. He’s in construction and many of the people who he works with are also alcoholics. Some drink at work or right after work.

I can see where this is going. I don’t want our kids to grow up in this environment. He loves them, and they love him. He’s not physically or verbally abusive- he can just get negative after so many beers. He feels the need to rip apart everyone he sees on television, and then starts on everyone who has ever wronged him, sometimes me. I put him on an allowance of $40 a week, and he has admitted that he sold some of his tools at work for money.

I feel that our relationship is deteriorating. While I still love him and recognize his disease, I don’t know if I want to stay if the situation were to become inevitable. He seems pretty unwilling to actually get help. I know that I can’t make him. If I were to leave, how would I support my kids, and afford childcare on top of that? I don’t have a degree. Where would I go? I feel so alone and I don’t know what to do.
His father is also an alcoholic. When my husband confronted him about his childhood, he apologized and said it was wrong for him to be drinking the way he did around his kids, BUT also told my husband that “you can’t just give up those things entirely… just try to cut back.” This was on his 4th day of sobriety. He drank the very next day. I have never been so dissappointed in my life, except for last night, when he told me again that he doesn’t have a problem, (He drank 15 beers from 3pm to 7 pm.) and then had to go to bed because he was dizzy. So, back in denial is he. His (divorced) mother is a recovered alcoholic (15 years) but is dying from liver disease and Hepatitis C. He would not take anything she said in a helpful way because of their past. Family intervention is not going to be helpful here.

I haven’t been away from my children in 3 years, literally. The adults that I speak to, besides him, consist of grocery store cashiers and the like.

My husband and I just celebrated our five year anniversary. He is from Honduras and I am American. He was deported just five months after we married and I moved to Honduras with him and than later we moved to Costa Rica.We have two young children and he is a wonderful dad. The problem is that he has not held a study job since he was deported. He has no schooling past six grade and no job skills other than construction. I love him but I feel very bitter that he is not motivated. I have tried to motivate him by sending him to school, computer classes, buying tools to make furniture, and encouraging him to work out. He watched the kids the three days a week that I work and cooks, the days I am off he watches tv, watches videos on youtube, plays soccer, and helps with the kids. I am very frusterated and feel as if I have done my part. I pay all the bills, attend online university, and keep myself in shape by running. It seems like the more confident I become the more naggy, bossy, and unconfident he is. I have told him to look for a job or come up with a solution if he is unhappy staying at home. My mom is no help because she does not want to council me in the wrong direction. I am open to any thoughts or suggestions.

Ok well here is my problem, Im 8 months pregnant and live with my husband in a small apartment that we rent, But he has become so unorganized and messy!!!! he does construction work and has tools and his other stuff like treadmill, and some very old weight machine etc., the thing uis that he has them inside our apartment!!! they are in our living / dinning room, as soon as you walk in my home it looks like a junk yard! I feel like crying every day from seeing this mess! I cant even walk in there thats how bad it is!!! its so dusty and messy, and he refuses to rent a storage room, and Im worried about my baby that is on its way to come to a home like this!!! please help me what should I do??? Things at home get lost all the time because theres so much mess, my dining table is full of his construction books, and papers! Im going crazyyyyyy!!! This is not safe for anyone specially my son!

He told me that those mechanics that work for subcontractors tools stay open late. He said he is going get their at 7 (after work) and he doesn’t know when it will finish…

He has no reason to lie but it just sounds wierd.
Is this true?

I always feel so guilty because its usually me who puts the plans together on what he will be doing for the day and it always ends up in learning some new curse words.

Do I go help? Offer Caffeine? What? What is the best way to support him so he doesn’t kill anyone? LOL!